Mindset

The Art of SELF EMPOWERMENT


An article about the baddies, the good and the art of Self Empowerment, starting with a big culprit and kind of a Modern version of the Pandora Box.

You don’t know what the Pandora Box? No, it’s not a box full of those shiny pieces of cute beads and jewelry you see in the high street. It’s a Greek myth that if you fancy (and are curious) to read more about then click here (it’ll open in a new tab), courtesy from Wikipedia.

The Social Media Trap

This one is HUGE.

Where to start? Social media is perceived as fun, easy to use and entertaining. It builds communities as it connects people across the globe, and it’s also amazing to use for reaching out masses with your message. The other (dark) side of it? Frankly, NOT SO GOOD.

Social media was made to be a successful “product”, and in order to be that successful it needs to get people hooked up with it SO BADLY.

How do you get people so dependent of something? Make it sweetly attractive AND addictive.

Certainly is so powerfully addictive that companies and brands use it as a medium to promote their own services and products. And they use it heavily every day.

You’ve probably started to notice that there’s more and more ads around on Facebook and Instagram. Other social media platforms and search platforms are following suit.

It’s HIGHLY lucrative and moves billions or probably trillions of money.

I’m pretty sure you’ve got a smartphone or at least some access to a computer, and that you use at least one social media platform. Nothing to be ashamed of!

I use them too, and since I became an entrepreneur I use them HEAVILY these days.

I admit that I NEED TO CUT BACK the amount of time I spend in it.

Why? Because as I mentioned earlier, I’m starting to show signs of..

ADDICTION

Let’s talk about it, what it means. Here’s the definition from Wikipedia (click here for more info on a new tab):

“Addiction is a brain disorder characterized by compulsive engagement in rewarding stimuli despite adverse consequences.[9] Despite the involvement of a number of psychosocial factors, a biological process – one which is induced by repeated exposure to an addictive stimulus – is the core pathology that drives the development and maintenance of an addiction.[3][10] The two properties that characterize all addictive stimuli are that they are reinforcing (i.e., they increase the likelihood that a person will seek repeated exposure to them) and intrinsically rewarding (i.e., they are perceived as being inherently positive, desirable, and pleasurable).[3][5][8]

In short: it’s a repetitive need that is reinforced by an extremely rewarding feeling regardless of the consequence of it.

What does it have to do with motherhood? It actually does have a lot to do with ANY individual but moms are a group that can be heavily exposed to it.

It’s because of these common factors:

  • Overwhelm.
  • Guilt
  • Comparison syndrome
  • Low self-esteem
  • Loneliness
  • Detachment

NOTHING is Black or White

And so on.. Mothers are naturally really strong mentally, physically and emotionally UNLESS they have been subject to the above list for any reason or another. Mostly those who are new moms, because they are trying to figure out new things while adapting to a new lifestyle and role that it was unknown to them.

I don’t believe in extremes, almost everything should be taken moderately (and few things I wouldn’t even touch). We all need connection and to feel we belong.

We all like looking at nice things and read interesting stuff, I get it.

You can cut off a bit from social media or use it when needed and sparingly.

I don’t really see it like the enemy even though it could potentially be!

It can surely be inspiring and give you lots of ideas, bring knowledge from other people and news about the world. Introduce you new styles and music, and even invigorate you.

Provided you are in control.

So how we can use social media without falling deeply into its trap? WRONG QUESTION. To me it’s more important to know “How to be in a state of mind that nothing will bring you down?”.

Remember, you are only susceptible to anything negative if you are in a dark place or feeling your weakest.

So.. What’s the contrary of weakening?

Empowerment

Power is a strong feeling and it’s neutral, it can be positive or negative depending of the intention you put into it. We have seen its negative side more often, mainly because it’s destructive and therefore noticeable.

Positive power doesn’t really seek attention but you definitely can feel it rather than seeing it. Unfortunately it’s also often taken for granted.

When you step on your power, you are more ALIGNED TO WHO YOU REALLY ARE.

Your core values are reinforced and you live life dictated by what you think and/or feel it’s right for you.

Fear doesn’t disappear yet no longer gets on the way of what’s within inside calls you to do or where you need to go.

You follow what you believe and you are less inclined to bow down to other’s perceptions, desires or needs, unless you are in tuned with any.

It’s like if you have a sense that whatever happens, you will be alright and everything is (shout out to Marie Forleo) Figureoutable, meaning YOU WILL FIND A WAY NO MATTER WHAT. It’s something I stand for even before I knew this word or Marie Forleo.

Wouldn’t you love to feel at ease knowing that whatever life throws at you, you will be alright? That means you have more energy to spend on those things you enjoy and value most.

Consequently you will no longer need to focus on mundane things, or be persuaded to admire and blindly follow others’ lives.

You will be too busy living the life that makes you and your loved ones happy.  And this is what matters most.

This is what you (like everyone else) wants in life, right? So stop sending all your likes to others feed and start feeding yours with what you would like to live in.

With light and joy,

Diosa Ll.B.

Ps: If you feel the need to step in your power, let’s chat and see how I can help you !?

2 Comments

  • Shannon

    Thank you for bringing this issue to light and your inspiring words. As a mom of 5 who stayed home with my kids for several years, I admit I have been guilty of too much social media at times and I have seen the ‘dark’ side of it along with the good.

    I think self empowerment is so important these days, for women in general, but especially mothers. We are raising the next generation after all! If we are empowered and model this behavior, our children will also emulate it and grow to be strong empowered adults themselves. 

    Your posts are always very inspirational for me and I enjoy reading them. Thanks again!

    • Diosa

      Thank you Shannon for taking your time to comment and share your experience! 

      Yes I have been guilty many times as well, but let’s not beat ourselves because of that, we are human and knowing our weaknesses and acknowledging them is good. This is what makes us human, mothers are in my opinion the most humane because despite many pains and challenges we still get up and do our best not only for us but for others.

      Let’s keep moving forward for better generations to come. We’ve got this 🙂

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